Rarely if ever do I get scammed; mostly because I never engage in junk mail inquiries, online freebies or the door to door salesman.
People are hurting financially. Noticing the number of sales people walking around neighborhoods has increased. It’s like avoiding the inevitable. If a person is hungry enough they will try to sell almost anything.
For some reason our neighborhood must be a target for the local swindlers. Maybe we are generous or appear to be stupid.
Their efforts to sell lawn chemicals, carpet cleaners and magazines have become annoying. Lately more general maintenance and lawn care advertisements are found attached to the mailbox.
Two men showed up the other day. Immediately poor mouthing how one had lost his job 3 weeks earlier and couldn’t pay his bills he wanted to work. He could clean the windows and gutters, weed the flower beds, cut the grass and paint.
It was rather odd his so called cousin never said a word. He was his helper.
Our hearts were in the right place. Listening to this man ramble on about his plight made us question his motives. His cousin headed for the flower beds.
If you aren’t closely listening, missing clues will slip by. The major trick of the trade of scammers in a word is, “liars.”
He fidgeted and looked the other way while spilling his sorrows; his mannerisms invoked one who is nervous or unsure. Centering on the job at hand we stressed the need for an estimate. While his cousin or helper began washing the windows he managed to turn to walk away while mumbling,
“I’ll give you a price once I’m done.”
Sorry, but we don’t do business that way.
Heading for their truck, it was apparent he was disgruntled. He got caught.
He needed to learn how to do business or brush up on his skills of lying.
How can you tell when someone is lying?
A few signs are:
→The first five minutes give upfront clues such as distraction or repeating themselves.
→Liars will talk incessantly possibly attacking interrogators with a smile on their face.
→Quickly, the con artist or deceiver will change course by acting as if they don’t understand or use selective memory.
→Using foul language or swearing often comes into play along with rolling eyes and profuse sweating.
→Fillers or words invoked in sentences that are far from straightforward bring about a change of subject from the fabricator.
→The perjurer knows how to give truthful answers off the point of the subject at hand.
→Deluders are masters at using “limited statements” for answers instead of responding with facts.
- Determined to be right
- Simple stubbornness
- One lie may be a ripple effect of other lies
- Covering for someone else
- Don’t want to be punished
- Giving up selfish lifestyles for money or materialism
Lying has become a national pastime. When one doesn’t receive what they want or need immediately, taking the situation into their own hands overrides patience.
The pain of knowing the truth has given into pre-conceived notions that many don’t want to hear or know the truth. Some people would rather be told a lie if it means the truth will hurt. Hearing what people want to hear no matter the consequences is an American way of life now.
But is it worth losing your soul?
Proverbs 12:19 “Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment.”