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Insensitive or Caring?


It is rare these days when I get down or sad.  I say that out of total admission that it wasn’t my idea or choice to get it knocked out of me.  Years of hard lessons I didn’t ask for or have had no control over strengthened my faith, gave me a new outlook on life and taught me what I most likely would never have learned otherwise.

This is not to say it has been enjoyable or easy.

Quite the contrary.

At times, I felt beat to a pulp.

When you’re down and out, getting up seems impossible. Getting kicked while you are down can be as bad as the illness itself, if not worse.

Those darkened days, weeks, months and years bore holes in my heart and soul.

I have never been in a jailed prison cell per se, but have spent prolonged periods of time in solitary confinement. Some jail cells are prisons we end up in someone else built.  But, it was through those enclosed spaces of internment I learned how to be alone.

On the other side of loneliness is there is nothing worse than being alone with someone who is supposed to love you.

And that is when I was broken of ever being alone, sad and down again.

God wants to get us to the place we can be alone without being lonely or feel left out because everyone else is wherever we can’t be.

In the depths of illness I yearned for one day to feel good. Just one. Thoughts of what I was missing or unable to do never crossed my mind.

Crying out to God more times than I can count became my lifeline.  Physical impairment or the inability to explain to others how bad I felt was underrated especially when it wasn’t so noticeable.

During days, months and years of ill-health I learned how insensitive people can be. Observing others who were tangibly debilitated who had been ridiculed or mocked for a deficiency out of their control has always grieved me. But I had no idea how much it hurt until I became the one who was ailing.

I guess it was too much to expect help from anyone while I was a single parent, working and practically on death’s door. Instead the expectations were piled on me as if no one noticed this bone-thinned 90 pound, anemic frame.

When I wasn’t being ignored, people would ask,mercy

“Why are you sick so much? What is wrong with you?”

Or all of a sudden many became instant doctors to tell me what to do about it.

Then it would be, “You are too thin. Why don’t you gain some weight?”


I do not write this for sympathy or a “Get Well Card.” Actually, I am finally beginning to feel as if I am on the mends from Chronic Allergy/Sinus infections but it has been a long, hard road.

I write this to bring awareness to those who are sick, whether it be physical, mental or from an injury.

God gifted me with Mercy and compassion. I have tried to use it for the benefit of others when it was appropriate. But experiencing it myself has given me a deeper perception for the feelings of others who are sick.

Proverbs 18: 12 “Life and death are in the power of the tongue. Those who love it will eat its fruit.”

Satan’s attack of sickness and disease must be stopped. And while we are at it as heirs of Christ’s healing from the cross, we should be light to those who are in physical or mental pain.

We should be loving and compassionate. Encouraging. Merciful. Empathetic. Understanding. Caring. Helpful. Hopeful.

Remind the sick how much God loves them and how he wants them healthy. (3 John 2) Pray for their healing and watch what God does.

Be Jesus.


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6 thoughts on “Insensitive or Caring?

  1. Thank you so much for sharing your feelings and experiences. Although I try to be a source of strength and support for friends and family who are suffering, I know I have let them down many times. I am guilty of being the one who always try to “help” by offering suggestions. This was done in love, however, I am slowly learning to “listen” more and “talk” less….so the Holy Spirit can open my heart to their real need. And that always includes PRAYER.

    May God continue to bless you. Love and hugs!

    • Thank you! When we allow God to teach us how to respond to certain circumstances, we can guarantee the right one. There is always room for improvement as I found out but more than anything it gives me a heart of gratitude for all God has spared me from.

  2. I myself, have experienced all that you have said above as well. Those lessons can be hard for sure. But, I wouldn’t have changed being allowed to go through them for anything now. I have learned so much of Him and His strength through those storms that I have been forever changed. Thank for the reminder of how great the redemption of our Lord is today. Great post!!

  3. Are you saying Al’s illness is from Satan?

    • Terry, all evil comes from Satan whether it is direct or indirect. If God wants his people healthy, then why do we get sick? Why do bad things happen to good people? Why do we have hurricanes, tornadoes, war that kill and injure people who are innocent?
      God is incapable of evil therefore it comes from the devil. We live in a fallen world which started with Adam and Eve but they were born perfect so what happened? Temptation. We in our flesh have weakness due to sin and sin can result in dire circumstances but it doesn’t always. Satan is attacking people with sickness; I know without a doubt that is what I have been through. If I did something wrong that brought it on then it is a consequence, but how does that apply to someone like Heather McCoy who was born with CF? Did she sin? No. There are many curses handed down from our ancestors that have never been broken and unless they are dealt with can be used against descendants. And as I spoke about being kicked when a person is already down? That is the way of Satan; he is a coward and heaps hot coals on those already in pain. His purpose is to kill, steal and destroy. He aims to stop any of us getting closer to God: for instance. The singer Carman has terminal cancer; he has been a warrior for Christ for many years. How did he get it? My uncle died at the age of 49; from malaria of all things he contracted while on a mission trip to Africa in 1979. He had never been sick a day in his life but preached all over the world. My sweet Aunt Betty died at the age of 64 after living with the worst case of RA I have ever seen since her 20’s and she was a saint.

      My point is we have as Christians have the power and authority of Jesus to tell the devil to get away or leave. I started doing that 16 years ago when I first got sick; and I got worse and worse and worse. Now after 3-5 years of horrible allergies/sinus infections and side effects from the meds as bad as the infections I am finally believing the devil has been beat. The devil can’t create anything so he makes what we already have worse or starts with something else just like what we fought prior to that.

      The enemy is a liar and he has succeeded in making people sick and telling them it came from God or earthworms. Think how down through the ages there have been plagues, viruses, or illnesses that appeared for so many years and then died out. Why? Satan. He has done this over and over until God has people crying out to him to stop it.

      Does this make sense?

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