I am so glad I am not a controlling, impatient person. In my mind, it is just too much work to try to run everybody else’s life when I am not doing such a great job with my own. Many, even in my own family are control freaks ordering others around, telling everyone else what to do and how to do it but don’t tell them they fell out of the stupid tree and hit every branch on the way down.
Me? No, I am not interested. That is way too much work for me.
Use to be I would get so annoyed at their constant, everyday desire to conquer the world using their own measuring cups that it became a problem. I would ask, “why do you want this done that way? or “why can’t I do it this way?”
WELL, pardon me for having both oars in the water.
You see, they are know-it-alls. They are God‘s appointed to save those of us who are quiet, patient and meek and don’t make waves. They believe people like me, are simply not as equipped as they are. Equipped for what?
I beg your pardon, but I don’t want to be like you. If I am not mistaken, does the phrase, “patience is a virtue” mean anything to you? What about “Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth?” (Matthew 5:5) or “Blessed are the merciful for they shall be shown mercy?” (Matthew 5:7) From what I have witnessed, the controlling and impatient people in my life have an intellect rivaled only by garden tools.
Just because I don’t care about conquering the world doesn’t declare me unfit. In fact, quite the opposite. It just means I am sowing other seeds; one at a time instead of all at one time.
Now that I am older and much wiser (lol) I can pick a “control freak” out a mile away. Their efforts appear to be noble of character, bolder and fresher than the rest of us, and by far running the marathon at full speed. In other words, they will impose their opinions of knowledge, adding with that their “how to do list” and leave you feeling like you’re dumber than a rock.
Sadly, but many suffering from the “conquer the world” inflatable ego are desperately hurting inside. Trauma, deep seeded wounds from the past, or cruel intentions are covered by this need for a perfect world around them. They delve into a controlled atmosphere in an attempt to sever the rest of their life from a buried hole in their soul.
Now that I am aware of their impasse, it gives me understanding as to how to deal with it. God revealed to me their hearts are full of good intentions; they want to fix things. And people. All the time. And to do it quickly. The order is a protection to keep themselves from falling apart on the outside while on the inside, their world is crumbling.
So where does that leave the meek, mild mannered, un-controlling champions of patience?
We are to pray for them; forgive them for hurting us and gently paint a picture of how they are making us feel without adding to their misery. Show them God is in control and they don’t have to be. Help relieve them of the immense burden they are laying upon their own lives.
Mostly, we should try to be the meek, mild mannered, patient children of God that we were created to be so that we might shine for them the example of Jesus.